It is commonly believed that you must be a native speaker of the language to raise your child to become bilingual/multilingual. This assumption is often based on the notion that a non-native speaker parent can pass on an accent or wrong grammar. Many parents do it, and they do it well! Whatever your reasons for raising your child bilingually or multilingually, it can be challenging yet rewarding.

Here are a few things to consider. They might be helpful as you navigate uncharted territory on your bilingual journey:

1) What is your motivation?

Raising children who speak many languages requires devotion, stamina, and commitment. So, before you go on into that adventure, think about why you want to raise your children in several languages. What is your motivation? Is your determination to keep going strong enough to weather the storm?

2) What is the language situation in your family?

You'll probably need all the assistance and motivation you can get.  It's critical that you and your partner agree on everything. Is it okay with your partner if you use the target language? Is your partner also fluent in the target language? Are they capable of providing input in the target language? Is it a language that you only speak with your kids? How can you ensure that no one in the family feels left out in this situation?

3) What level of proficiency do you have in the target language?

It's critical to be honest with yourself about your linguistic abilities and limitations. You might be able to read an academic article fluently, but do you know every day phrases in the target language like diaper, pacifier, or vice versa?  It would be best to recognize what you can supply and where you might need to rely on additional support from native speakers.

4) What are your goals?

It is unlikely to have your child excel in both languages equally. In fact, only a small group of bilinguals can speak both languages fluently! For most bilinguals, one language is usually more dominant than the other! As a result, expecting too much is not only impractical, but it can also lead to undue stress, dissatisfaction, and even a feeling of failure. Listening comprehension alone in an additional language is already a success and a gift!

5) What resources can you provide?

Providing your child with a rich linguistic environment is essential for developing second or third languages. For example, songs, books, games in the target language, and bilingual schooling options are all fantastic things to consider. Are books in another language provided at your local library or online? Are there any local community activities or programmes you and your child can attend? Is there a language immersion school that teaches the target language? Is it possible for you to travel to a country where the target language is spoken so that your child can immerse himself in it?

6) Do you have a support system in place?

First and foremost, it is critical to connecting with other bilingual parents, preferably parenting their children in the same target language. Is there a language playgroup that you and your child could join? Is there a support group for parents in your area or online? Can you make one if there isn't any? They can offer you encouragement and reassurance, which can help you gain the confidence you need to continue this journey. More importantly, they may offer techniques, insights, and ideas that are useful in recognizing and coping with common problems. 

Conclusion

Many parents ask me how can they support their child at home, when they themselves, do not speak French or Mandarin. It is an age-old question asked by many parents wanted to do their best for their children and often, trying to stay clear from the “noise” coming in from various well-meaning sources. If your child is enrolled in a bilingual or French Immersion school, asking questions to your teachers is your first port of call. They are experts in the field and they are always happy to help parents with their journey of raising bilingual / multilingual children.

 

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